Hello, my names is Denna and I like a lot of things because things are fun. I blog about multiple things, typically Buffy The Vampire Slayer, Supernatural, and How I Met Your Mother. However I reblog anything I like from different fandoms (Note- the label of "thing" applies to many.)
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My friend said Swan Queen won’t happen because Captain Swan has the biggest fandom. She also said Lana doesn’t have true fans.
I’ll show this to her.
I want to proof her she’s wrong. So help me!
Like it if you’re Evil Regal.
Like it + reblog it if you ship Swan Queen!
“I always found Regina’s season one actions pre-1x21 to Emma to be completely understandable. I would probably have reacted much worse to my child’s birth mother attempting to come into his life after ten years.”
#adoptive mom is the real mom #birth moms have no right to be trying to come back in that child’s life (via americansnexttopoerwolf)
… Are you serious right now? This show has nothing to do with birth family or adoptive family. It has to do with who is best suited to take care of the child. And in this show, Emma has been shown to be the better parent for Henry despite the fact that she hasn’t been in his life for 10 years. In this show, Regina has been shown to be an unfit parent to Henry due to extensive emotional and psychological abuse.
I wouldn’t care if Regina was the birth mother, I’d still say Emma is the better parent because she consistently puts Henry’s well being and best interests first. Regina adopted a child because she was lonely. Because she decided ‘Well a child will have no choice but to love me. I’ll be the only person in it’s life after all.’ And then proceeded to neglect him and psychologically damage him. So much so that the only solution he could think of was to find his birth mother who he, at the time, believed didn’t want him anyways.
A 10 year old kid went looking for someone he thought abandoned him because she didn’t love him. How does that make sense if Regina was a good mother?
Honestly I can understand the OP’s feelings in this situation, but the things Regina herself specifically did brought about the loss of her son. And you know what? She deserved it. She wasn’t a good mother. She was abusive and manipulative and she cared only about what she wanted. She wasn’t fit to be a parent and I’m not sure she is now either, despite the steps she’s taken towards being a better person.
I think the point the OP is making here is that any adoptive mom would freak the fuck out if the BM suddenly showed up and wouldn’t leave. I would. Regardless of who is the “better mom” here…this would not sit well with any adoptive parent. I would go insane if I adopted a child and the BM all of a sudden decided she was going to be in his life ten year later…just nope.
I was given up in a closed adoption and in real life this doesn’t happen. I think that is all the OP is saying here. Not really a debate about who the better mother is. They are both his mothers.
I understand the OP’s feelings. It does make sense but my point was to someone who reblogged this and had those tags under it. I posted another response to this confession before this one regarding what the OP said.
But I understand that in real life this wouldn’t happen. But the thing is, in real life none of this would have happened. In real life Regina wouldn’t have been able to adopt Henry in the first place. She would have been vetted far more than what the show described to us, with a lot more follow through on the part of the adoption agency. And when she freaked out and brought him back? In real life that agency wouldn’t have let her walk out with that child so easily again after that display. It showed a kind of emotional instability that the agent would have recognized.
I was in Henry’s position for a long time. Abused by my parent. And in real life, grand gestures like the ones the writers have been using to repair this relationship don’t work. They just don’t. Declarations of apologies aren’t worth anything in the real world were this situation here. It’s a very difficult and slow process to rebuild that trust that she broke in him the first time, and the show doesn’t do that. They just skip to big gestures and moments when, in an abusive relationship, those don’t work. They don’t make anything better.
I can understand Regina being upset. I can completely understand the OP’s point, but the confession is explaining away Regina’s treatment of Henry along with everyone else up until 1x21. And I just don’t agree with that. The point stands, but in this show I don’t think that’s what it was really about.
The show rushes everything. Yes Henry’s adoption and the agency were no where near what it is like in real life, but it isn’t really about that. If they were making a show that showcased just how hard and long of a process adoption takes then they would draw it out, but they wanted to get on with the story without it taking forever so this is what they did.
As far as the repair in their relationship, you are right that in real life it would take forever, but again, the show doesn’t really focus on working through feelings. If they did then we would see more relationship development with all of the characters and we don’t see that. Emma and her parents still have mounds of stuff to work through but all we see is her seeing her former nursery and having a touching moment with Snow in FTL. Then the orphan comment in NL. Neal and Rumple have a ton of things to work through including his abuse, but we don’t see it. We see Rumple making a grand gesture and suddenly everything is ok. If realistic relationship development is what you are looking for then you are watching the wrong show. They rush through everything and will continue to do so in order to move the story along. Grand gestures are how they do it and realistic or not I don’t see that stopping anytime soon.
I understand that. And I understand that relationship development is quick on this show but the way they are handling the topic of abuse is poor. That’s my issue with it really. The fact that they focus on Regina’s pain and ignore Henry’s most of the time, the way that Henry is used as a crutch for Regina. They are making the child the whole center of the universe for this parent who is broken and messed up and who doesn’t know how to be a parent really and that’s wrong. They made Henry the emotional substitute for Regina’s father in her life. That’s not a parent child relationship and it’s alarming on this show.
But the thing is the way they rush Regina and Henry’s development freaks me out as a victim of abuse. The message that sends is scary to me. I just wish the writers did more research on sensitive topics like that before they used them so heavily. Right now it feels like they are making Henry nothing more than a cheerleader, turning him into this little adult in the relationship. But he’s a kid, and he ought to be able to be a kid.
The difference I see with the Rum/Bae relationship is that Neal is an adult now. He has his own faculties to use to protect himself and he has the ability to walk away. He’s not a little kid. But Henry is.
I understand why you love this relationship, I really do. And I don’t fault you for it at all. It’s wonderful that you can enjoy it! But to me it’s kind of alarming at times the way it’s handled. And that’s really all there is to it. At least with Rum and Neal they address the abuse and the anger there. With Regina they like to retcon her and pretend things that happened never did. Her redemption arc could be so much more than it is and it’s disappointing to see them sweeping things under the rug like Henry’s abuse and moving forward. Just a little evidence that they aren’t pretending it didn’t happen would be nice. That’s all I’m saying.
I get what you are saying and I’m sorry it brings up bad memories for you. I’m simply saying that as far as this show goes and these writers this is what we are going to get. I wouldn’t mind them exploring things deeper but they aren’t going to.
Neal is an adult now but they have still swept his abuse under the rug. They did the same with the horrible abuse Regina went through at the hands of her mother. No one discusses their pain from that time in their lives either…and they won’t. It’s just not how this show operates. It really was the same with Lost. The deeper issues were rarely dug into. As I said if relationship development is what people want they will be disappointed with these writers.
The redeeming quality for Regina for me is that she recognized what she was doing and made the effort to change it. She saw herself going down the same road as her mother with Henry and decided to let him go with Charming. No she hasn’t been perfect and yes she has still done horrible things but she recognized it and wants to be different.
I don’t see the substitute father thing you are talking about and I also don’t think Henry has been some lap dog like cheerleader. Yes he has encouraged her to be better…she’s his mother and he wants to keep her in his life. Any child would. But he is also not afraid to call her on her shit and he does so on a regular basis. You haven’t seen evidence of his anger at her but I have to wonder then what was season 1? The only thing we saw from Henry towards Regina was anger.
In S2 we see her finally starting to get that she can’t force him to be with her or to love her, but she wants to try and do it right. That is why he cheers for her. Because she raised him. He loves her. No matter who else her has in his life she will always be his Mom. It makes total sense to me that he wants her to change so he can still have that relationship with her.